I wasn’t a doormat for the average reason (wanting approval) that people become doormats. I didn’t want to believe that I screwed up and I went to extra ordinary lengths to try to make the screw up correct itself. Usually it was someone wanting to be someone they aren’t. The guy that doesn’t want to cheat but is unhappy with himself and uses sex like a drug. Or the person that wants to be ambitious and successful but it really isn’t in their nature. Or the person that wants to be a better person but is too weak to change. The doormat behavior came up when I allowed people to break their word, lie to me, etc. Should have walked away when I first noticed the REPETITIVE behavior.

There is a couple on MySpace that broke up recently. The guy removed the girl from the first slot, put another woman there and is opening professing feelings for girl #2. You can tell when they broke up – he changed his auto-play song to reflect it.

The ex-girlfriend hasn’t updated her status or the words on her profile to reflect they broke up. She’s logged in and made comments on other pages, changed her profile pic but she hasn’t changed that. Look at the message she’s throwing out there? She’s ripe to be a doormat, although I doubt he’ll go back to her. He seems to always move forward with women, never backwards. Anyway that’s an example of not accepting the facts even when they are right in front of your face.

There were times when I knew, as the lies were being told, I was being lied to and I let it go down. Instead I’d “hint” I knew the mofo was lying – WTF? I mean really, I should have chewed the assholes up and spit them out. Change them like I change my clothes.

I used to be the one people knew not to fuck with. I lost that somewhere along the way but I got it back now. Thank God.

Ok, I’m closing comments. I’m sooooo not watching things over here. Ya’ll know what week this is and what I’ll be doing. And ya’ll will have a fun spot to play in soon.

KISSES!!!

I think Tyme learned her lesson this time. She compared it to playground fights. She doesn’t like losing LOL.

@Valerie: This is a good article I read on being a doormat. Tyme is right when she said something was wrong with her to allow it to happen.

http://www.essortment.com/lifestyle/personalityadvi_scxn.htm

We all struggle with shit like this. We don’t want to think the people we’ve come to care about or love would hurt us. I’m lucky to have Felicia in my life and that we worked out all our problems but look how long it took for us to get where we are today? It’s still scary, trusting and depending on someone else.

Shawn is a douchebag. She’s great but this pussy over here looks so good….

I agree with the article and I pray Tyme gets it this time. Stop dealing with losers who don’t appreciate you.

Yeah, Shawn’s an idiot. Who the fuck walks away from a great relationship? Must not be that great.

Tyme, when a guy cheats on you, what do you do? When he lies to you, what do you do? I have to work on the lying thing myself.

When I think about the times I tried to the point of turning myself inside out to make situations work I feel dumb because Tyme is right. How dumb did I look telling someone who was purposely dishonest and disloyal to me we can work it out?

“But let’s keep it real: If you allow someone to lie to you, be disloyal to you, hurt you, and mistreat you…there is something wrong with you.”

So you admit there was something wrong with you to let the people in your life mistreat you?