I have 9 new babies (sites)
Last month, we relaunched 9rules, returning 9rules to member only content. This month we launched 9 new sites, which divided the social aspects of 9rules that was temporarily moved to Chawlk into 9 different sites. We didn’t plan on 9 sites, it worked out that way which only demonstrates how 6s and 9s follow me (a 6 is a 9 turned upside down and the following started coming out of the womb…6s…three of them). I was up a good portion of the night thinking about how I wanted to announce the sites. I wanted to announce it yesterday I couldn’t formulate my thoughts properly. Unfortunately, I had a situation I had to deal with (which I should have taken care of months earlier). I was so engrossed explaining why I made the decision I made (I knew the day before what was going to happen but I try to be fair and give the benefit of the doubt) that I forgot to announce I was in a stream yesterday (I was dealing with it right up until 5 minutes before the stream). Anyway, what are these 9 sites?
The 9 Sites
Chixe - For the ladies
Decaflon - Where the geeks hang out
Drawar - Design and pretty stuff
Dud3s - For the guys
Fenxy - Movies, TV, Gossip…fun stuff
LooseSuits - For the business person in you
TwoCredits - 360, PS3, Wii…got skillz?
WingColors - Politics and commentary
Wriging - Blogging and writing resource
Some back history…
When I first came on board 9rules it was as a member so I always had a different perspective, one could say a detachment, to 9rules. I’ve said many times that because 9rules was Scrivs’, long before anyone else was on board, I viewed it as his baby and whatever vision he had, I would help him to achieve it. That was my mentality. It was the wrong mentality. When the idea came up to add social features to 9rules I was giddy about the idea of having social features on a site, I was hesitant to put it on 9rules because I saw conflicts - like the 9rulers community and a blog…it made no sense because they were competing with each other. If I couldn’t get a blog to disappear you can imagine the quick rejection of putting the social features on another domain. However, I thought about it, came up ideas on who to make it work, made suggestions to the guys and got caught up in the idea as they were. Being the content person I saw problems…quickly.
For a site, content and brand are key
People visit sites for a reason; they are getting value from the site. Normally it breaks down into:
- Entertainment
- Education
- Ego
- Interaction
Gaming sites are an example of entertainment. News and Wikipedia are examples of education. Twitter is an example of ego (easier to get followers - the followers they can’t get on their own blogs), Facebook is an example of interaction.
The problem with adding social features to 9rules is that people were used to using 9rules as an education resource, period, because that was the way it was built. It’s easier to add education to interaction or entertainment than interaction to education. The people who want to learn most likely want to grab their knowledge and leave - it’s an uphill battle.
With the new sites they have the potential to be any of the above to a user. Some visit the sites to find links to cool articles. Others might come to engage in conversation. Others might feed their ego by being a leader in the community. Others might lurk the site, amused by the conversations or are curious about what is going on and not interact at all.
Understanding why people are visiting a new site is crucial when building it.
The sites are up, now what?
The first instinct when a person launches a site is to get traffic (people) on the site. This isn’t a bad thing but there is one serious question one should ask before going on the traffic hunt otherwise the site owner will have a very bumpy road ahead:
Is the site able to actively compete with the competition?
The competition has users on their site, the type of users you want on your site. Does your site have want it takes to pull the users from the competition to your site? I know, you’re thinking you want “people”, but in truth, you want the people your competition has because your competition is most likely pulling new people every day because it is established. Is your site strong enough to stand on its own?
Any answer other than YES (a STRONG YES) means you’re in for a bumpy and frustrating ride getting traffic (and keeping traffic) on the site. The time is better spent preparing the site for the traffic it will have.
Right now, the sites visually look different but are incomplete. Look at Chixe for example, no logo, no brand, no tagline…does it have the content and features that will draw women to it? No, it’s incomplete, I know it’s incomplete, the guys know it is incomplete. Now that the site is launched (on its own because the content was originally merged on another site) it is time to shape the site into it’s own “being”. If you remember that is how 9rules was launched and one of the keys to its success. From the beginning it had a logo, a brand in mind…a purpose and a goal. Once the key features are locked down, promoting the site (and locking those ideals into the minds of users) is much easier.
What next?
Having just gone through sites for 9rules and realizing the importance of having everything in place to make that strong impression prior to trying to get serious traffic on the sites, I will be working on building the sites. Let’s get something straight…just because Scrivs said, “we need to divide 9rules into multiple sites” doesn’t mean I said, “cool, let’s do this…”.
Wait, I did…but I also thought long and hard about it. Did I want to do it? Did I have the time to do it? Was I skilled enough to do it? Did it really make sense to do it? Did I want to do it (yes, it’s worth repeating)? How was I going to do it? Were there financial repercussions and if so could I weather those? Did Scrivs really understand for this to work the sites have to be independent of each other? Did I have the time to do it?
I asked the tough questions before seriously agreeing to make sure I could bring 200% to the table. It means I’ll be traveling, promoting, dealing with advertisers (ughhhhh), managing, being the “bad” guy, interacting, making tough decisions…but having a lot of fun.
In conclusion…thought it was never coming, eh?
I hope you guys stick around for the journey. It’s going to be a fun ride. Looking back adding social features to 9rules wasn’t a “failure” because we learned something - an important lesson people aren’t listening to. By being one of the first to do it I learned that adding social features to an education site most likely will not work (listening Fast Company?). I learned that I have the strength to make the tough decisions (the participation agreement implementation wasn’t a mistake - we had 95% accuracy on who was going to stay and who was going to leave). I learned that my business instincts are solid. I learned I am ready to push and test my limits.
And I learned I have two crazy ass partners.
Related posts:
Felix Says:
You were serious about the 9 sites. I have a meeting in a few but I bookmarked them to check out after the meeting.
I admit I’d fall into the “gotta get people here” category but you’re right. I discovered 9rules because of you but I loved that it was defined - I can’t think of another word. The sites I visit are like that, they have a purpose that suits me. It’s smart to create and brand that purpose before trying to get lots of users on the site.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 8:34 am
Juanita L. Says:
Congrats on the sites Tyme! How are you guys deciding what each site will turn into?
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 9:28 am
I have 9 new babies (sites) Says:
[...] Jill Stanek wrote an interesting post today onHere’s a quick excerptI’ve said many times that because 9rules was Scrivs’, long before anyone else was on board, I viewed it as his baby and whatever vision he had, I would help him to achieve it. That was my mentality. It was the wrong mentality. … [...]
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 9:56 am
Curious George Says:
Good points made, especially about the sites having their own value. I bet judging 9rules sites there were some that didn’t appeal you to. Following your own rules lol.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 10:18 am
Deidre Says:
Wow, nine more sites! I took a look at a couple. They remind me of Digg. Do you consider Digg your competition?
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 11:29 am
Walter Henry Says:
Logical to split them into individual websites. I read Scrivs’ entry on 3by9 about the time it took for you guys to get to where you are now. He said:
That idea was in Scrivs’ head over three years ago, that was before you were a part of 9rules, right? What happened, what made the difference or the change in thinking that made you move so quickly? Props on that, because on the internet I believe you have to be swift and to use your word efficient. The ones that are successful make the right move first.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Marquee Says:
Walter, I’m curious too if Scrivs had the idea years ago, why it didn’t happen? You seemed to have an idea what you wanted to do.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
Chandra D. Says:
Digg and that other site I can’t think of have to be competition. Hmmm…you guys are covering more topics so you have an edge appealing to people like us I think. I don’t like Digg because it is techy. If they try to be untechy they will lose millions of people.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Still Learning Says:
I think the problem was breaking away from putting it on 9rules. Something was holding that up. If I were Scrivs I could see adding it to 9rules instead of setting up new sites because they people on 9rules but that wasn’t the right plan. The people that liked 9rules wouldn’t like the social sites.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
ViperGirl Says:
They were really 9 sites or more in one site anyway. Scrivs was right to split them up. I wasn’t into the tech stuff but it always dominated notes. I like being able to go where I want when I want to get what I want.
DAYUM I sound like TYME!
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
Julia V. Says:
I remember the first time I came across Scrivs. It was on Tyme’s site. She wrote something like “I told you he’d be back” linked to an article she wrote talking Scrivs saying he was burnt out and he was taking a break and Scrivs’ article saying he was back. It was months later that I found out they didn’t know each other when they got in a fight on her site. It left a cool impression on me. I just liked him after the fight.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
Julia V. Says:
And I was so busy thinking about how much I like him I forgot to say good luck on the sites. This is embarrassing.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 2:43 pm
Eli James Says:
That is totally, totally, totally amazing, Tyme. What a ride this’ll be!
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Greg Vendas Says:
I’m going to try thinking like Tyme. Isn’t 3by9 the same as the blog and community? Wouldn’t the articles you write there have more value on your new sites? Especially Mike’s entries on 3by9 - they are always geek stuff.
Which sites are your favorites?
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 2:55 pm
Tyme White Says:
I’ll be answering your questions shortly. I’m not ignoring you guys - but I have some emails I have to get out today.
Glad you guys like the entry and the sites. Fun times ahead.
I’ll respond to your questions shortly!
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Scrivs Says:
I’m going to try thinking like Tyme as well.
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Man I need a man. Scratch that I need a man who understands me. Why can’t life be simple? Why can’t I just have a man who is upfront with stuff? Should I start analyzing things a bit more because if I do maybe I will come up with the solution to everything. Yes I will do that because I am a changed person and I’m not going to look back now.
I should probably put all of this on another site. Yeah that will be a good idea let me start another site. Why am I writing about sex on my new site? I can’t get away from writing about sex.
Life would be easier if everyone just thought like me. I tell people what is wrong with the world and they don’t listen and then they come to me crying asking how they can fix it and all I can do is shrug and say I told you so. People are stupid, that is the only conclusion I can come to.
OH WHERE OH WHERE IS MR. RIGHT?!?! I JUST WANT TO WRAP MY LEGS AROUND YOU AND SMOTHER YOU IN MY GOODNESS!
—-
Okay now that I’m done with that I’ll answer some of the questions with what “took me so long” to get to this stage and etc in a blog entry because I think it will be kind of long. I have to include the story of how we almost walked away from each other and gave up.
With regards to 3by9 we all have an obligation at the moment for 1 entry per week to get out what is on our mind and yeah probably ALL of our blog entries on all our sites would have value on the Notes sites, but we do want to keep some of our identity to ourselves.
@Julia V: I like you too girl.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:14 pm
Tyme White Says:
Yeah, this is the way for me to get work done. Thanks Scrivs! XOXOXO
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
Julia V. Says:
Thank you Scrivs! I feel special. I’m going to tell my co-workers. I’m so psyched!
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
Felix Says:
Thank GOD the people I work with no your stuff. I laughed out loud in the middle of a meeting reading Scrivs’ comment about Tyme. We all had a good laugh. I wish it was longer, this meeting is boring.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
Felix Says:
“I have to include the story of how we almost walked away from each other and gave up.”
Can’t wait to hear that story.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:38 pm
Curious George Says:
I laughed for 2 minutes on Scrivs’ comment. I can’t leave my cube for awhile.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 3:50 pm
Charmyn Says:
Thank you for breaking it up. Chawlk was a tad too geeky for me. And thank you for sharing how you do things. I enjoy reading the behind the scenes stuff. You almost walked away from each other? Can’t WAIT to read that. Normal with teams though and glad you guys stayed together.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 4:18 pm
Barnaby Says:
I don’t always read all the comments. I’m glad I didn’t skip Scrivs. Tyme can you make it so that you and Scrivs comments stand out more?
That’s a lot of sites. I agree with the others about breaking them up. I subscribed to WingColors and Wriging. I’ll check out Chawlk too but I’m interested in politics and writing.
How did you come up with the names? Tyme is your new site one of the nine?
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
Julia V. Says:
I told my co-workers I received a special shoutout from Scrivs. That made my day.
Barnaby that’s a terrific idea! Seeing their comments highlighted would make sure we don’t miss anything they said.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 5:14 pm
Bobbi Says:
Congratulations on your new sites. Tyme that was an insightful entry. I thought getting people to the site would be the next step but it doesn’t make sense. To stay on your sites vs. the others they would need a compelling reason.
Scrivs you brought laughter to my day exactly when I needed it. Thank you.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 6:00 pm
3by9 » How 9rules Almost Ended Says:
[...] in 6 months. How and what made us make that kind of change? These and other questions were asked by Tyme’s readers so I figured I would tell the story of how we almost walked away from 9rules to go our separate [...]
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 6:02 pm
Scrivs Says:
The post is up at 3by9:
http://3by9.com/124/how-9rules-almost-ended/
If you wish to discuss it I ask that you do it over there so we can stay on topic here. It’s okay to venture and comment on other sites people, we will be nice over there.
And everyone this is Tyme’s site, not Tyme and Scrivs site. I know that I leave the bestest comments, but highlighting mine over everyone else’s isn’t fair. I’m just like you guys when I come here, just a lot cooler.
Tyme’s should be highlighted though.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
Charmyn Says:
Tyme Decaflon takes forever to come down my browser. Wriging works fine.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 7:05 pm
Scrivs Says:
Hmm works fast for me.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 7:09 pm
Tyme White Says:
Charmyn - works fine for me too.
Haven’t forgotten about you guys. Playing with software to attempt to record tonight’s stream.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 7:12 pm
Scrivs Says:
BTW tonight’s stream is at 9pm over at Drawar:
http://drawar.com/superstream/
Tyme will be in the chat so if you wish to see Mike and I cover design ish with alcohol drop on in.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
Dennis V. Says:
I’ll be there. I’m at work so I can’t chat but I’ll be able to hear.
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 8:41 pm
Dennis V. Says:
That was definitely for the geeks. I had to pull out. They started talking about programming. WAY over my head. Thanks for the chat!
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
Rita Says:
I popped in around 9:20 and very true - a bit too techy. I look forward to your other chats! Congrats on them!
Posted on May 29th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
Felix Says:
Hope your chat went well. I ended up filling in for a friend’s basketball team.
Scrivs I read your 3by9 and laughed. Thought I would say it here because it would be off-topic over there. Having met Tyme I can assure you that if you blink, you won’t see her. She ignores us platonic guys man, like we are invisible. If you get a conversation you’re lucky. I witnessed a dude that was clearly into her. I overheard him say that he didn’t want to say anything until he met her to see how it went. The look on her face was picturesque. She shrugged and said that he should have been honest because to her it’s a sign of him hiding shit in the future. You could see the door slam, lock, bolt and cement come out of no where sealing it tight. It was funny because it wasn’t me. Dude that likes her, let’s her know, she’s feeling him meets her, she walks into his arms. The only reason I got to spend time with her was because it was a group meetup. Wasn’t Tyme just in NY? I bet she didn’t meet Bill or that other guy I can’t think of his name.
When ya’ll meet make it over food or something where she has to sit there if you want to talk to or have a drink lol.
I had problems loading TwoCredits earlier today. Maybe there were internet problems going on earlier today. It loaded but it was extremely slow.
Posted on May 30th, 2008 at 1:32 am
Leslie Moore Says:
Scrivs your comment is hilarious! Good luck to you both on your sites.
Felix, I need to take a page out of Tyme’s book. If I was more like that I would get in a lot less trouble.
Posted on May 30th, 2008 at 5:35 am
James Says:
Tyme, you should have said
“Wing Colors - where you go to watch James argue with a brick wall”
Posted on June 3rd, 2008 at 11:45 pm
Preston Says:
I go to Italy and I come back, you have nine sites! Why didn’t you say anything? I could have made your scenario more relevant to your situation.
I checked them out. WingColors has some great articles I’m going to read later. I’ve been slacking on election stuff. If I had the time I’d read a couple of articles now.
See you this weekend girl and congratulations again. Much success.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
Curious George Says:
What’s cooking this weekend? You have big plans?
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
YoYoSaun Says:
You coming in town Preston? Never a dull moment.
Curious George: I stopped by Tyme’s house. She passed out across her bed with her iPod going. I thought I was going to hear some jams (she’s been listening to The Dream lately) but she’s got some marketing e-book shit on. She pushing herself so hard to beef up on the things she feels she’s lacking to take these sites to the next level. Stacks of papers of shit she’s printed out. I might have the e-book she is listening to to my list of shit that bores me to death when I can’t sleep. Guy’s voice is horrible.
Plans for the weekend? Tyme said she wanted to be alone. This was a hell of a week. Working with the kids to get their school projects done so there is a mini double party for that I think, nothing elaborate. This time I’m respecting her wishes. Last year was fucked up…hopefully this year will be better.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
Preston Says:
Yolanda, when she wakes spank her. Now I understand what Carol meant when she said Tyme was working on nine swats. I thought it was part of the scenario because she just found my accountant mismanaging funds. I didn’t put together the swats were for something else. She worked through the weekend.
I think this calls for a redo. She wasn’t supposed to seriously work.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 6:05 pm
Charmyn Says:
You mean audio books? I can’t listen to those either but I have a friend that loves them. She’s subscribed to a site and downloads them at a discounted price. Fiction and romances I think she listens to.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 6:05 pm
Tyme White Says:
I’m sorry I didn’t respond earlier. Let’s look at the questions:
No idea on what will happen with the sites. Funny, I had a firmer idea when you asked but I am unsure now.
Yes, Digg is definitely competition.
I don’t have a favorite site yet.
I’ll see what I can do about making my comments stand out more.
Scrivs and I came up with names - mostly Scrivs. He’s better at names than I am.
I didn’t say anything about the sites because they weren’t public yet.
No big plans for this weekend. I have some things I need to sort though. Peace would be nice.
Swats? WTF is a swat? I was doing SWOTs. Swat, that’s funny. Spanked? I didn’t do anything wrong. I was doing as I was told - if I were a millionaire what would I do?
I used to enjoy audio books but I phased out of them. The MP3s are quicker to go through than me reading the books. It’s all a means to an end.
What are you guys going to do for the weekend?
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 6:37 pm
ViperGirl Says:
Tyme that is over dedication working through a weekend like that. I think that rates with one of the most unwise things you’ve done. Spanking is very appropriate punishment.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 6:47 pm
YoYoSaun Says:
I said e-book, I meant audio book. You’re right, e-book is text, audio is sound.
Tyme tell your neighbor to cut her back yard.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 7:16 pm
Tyme White Says:
Wait, I’m going to take a picture. Words cannot describe this.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
Felix Says:
You’re going to take a picture? I don’t believe it.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 7:40 pm
Felix Says:
If you’re taking pictures of the house, how about that wall above your bed?
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 7:43 pm
Tyme White Says:
*Tyme skips off to take this one request….*
Meanwhile this is my neighbor’s yard:
Ridiculous.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Charmyn Says:
TYME!!!!! How tall is the grass?
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 7:57 pm
Tyme White Says:
This is the computer I built. I actually went with green but I think I’m going to get a blue case…
Wall is coming up…
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
Tyme White Says:
That grass comes up to my knee at least. *cries
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:01 pm
Aaron Says:
LOL Tyme that’s awful! Won’t the city make her cut it? Your computer is nice. Tuned in to see the wall.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:07 pm
Tyme White Says:
You know that car Helen keeps talking about that is so loud? This is it. Helen sent me a picture the other day. I can never catch it to snap a picture.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
Tyme White Says:
Can you tell I’m delaying posting the wall? Man, ok here it comes. Ya’ll gonna tease me so bad…. It’s uploading from my phone. The webcam sucks with light during the day.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:12 pm
Tyme White Says:
*takes a deep breath*
The first shot is the first color blue I started painting the room - and hated it. Then I started painting it a darker blue. I love the color but it’s too dark for such a large room.
This is the room above behind my bed that still has the trace of the green wallpaper THAT I DID NOT PUT THERE. There are layers of wallpaper and the green was painted ontop. That’s why it’s not just a paint a wall task.
Also why I’ll never be the girl that says, “Honey, we need X done around the house - do it.”. I’m the “Honey, we need X done around the house and I hired someone to do it, they will be here Monday.” LMAO
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:17 pm
Aaron Says:
I’m dying Tyme. Dying. Laughing. That green is hideous.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:22 pm
Yoshi Says:
Tyme I’m glad you put these up. You’re like us? Just a normal chick that happens to have money. You’re cool girl. Kill that headboard when you move though. Expensive but it doesn’t fit your personality.
Is that from Helen’s house?
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:25 pm
Deidre Says:
Tyme you’re lucky you don’t have allergies. The grass that tall would kill my allergies. I can’t stop laughing at your wall. I’m glad you shared it too. I have a room in my basement like that. Older houses are a bitch to get the wallpaper off of.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:37 pm
Cedric Says:
That is the historic bed no man has ever been in? Ironic it’s an antique pristine kind of bed.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:44 pm
Tyme White Says:
Yeah, that’s from where ever Helen was at the time. I’m not sure if that’s her house as I’ve never been over there.
The problem with my room (and perhaps you can tell from the picture) I have tall ceilings and the room itself is massive with lots of furniture that I have no place to put. There is a table to the left and another bed to the right - that takes up the entire wall on that side. I’m too close to moving to give a shit about it now. It will get painted after the room is empty.
This is why I hate going to the grocery store. I took this in March and I posted it on Flickr but I took everything off Flickr outside of game shit.
Ok I’m done with pictures. I’m exhausted. I think I got slap happy and went on a picture taking spree.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 8:46 pm
Tyme White Says:
I tried to tell you guys, I’m just a normal every day person. Of course the other rooms make up for my own but it’s all good. I learned I’m NOT the home project girl - although I enjoy watching those types of shows. Now I watch and think of what I want the new place to look like - and have someone else to do it LOL. Anyway, that’s why I hate green though LOL.
Yes, that’s the bed I never had sex in. Yes, it’s an expensive bedroom set but you’re right - I HATE the design now. The coloring isn’t coming out right but it’s that antiqe yellow beige color. I already know I’m going to a modern look. I don’t have any preset ideas but I don’t want anything green or antique lol.
I hate knicknacks around the house too. You know how people put figurines and shit around? Gah, not my thing.
Thanks for putting up with me. Love you guys. Going to take a long bath.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
Leslie Moore Says:
That’s a custom paint job on your bedroom set isn’t it? Tyme your bill isn’t bad. You go to the store once a week, right? That’s all your food and snacks for a week. I spend more than that a week because I eat a lot of fast food. Girl, you are like my ex-boyfriend. Starting a project and not finishing. Kudos to you Tyme!
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 9:29 pm
Preston Says:
The only thing price wise I can find close to it is this:
http://www.bedroomsetshowroom.com/IVG2/N/ProductID-14533.htm
This is the most expensive set they have. Her dresser is larger with a mirror. She has a chest that does not come with this set. Her vanity is like a table, it lifts up and the girly makeup stuff is in there and has an matching antique chair with a high back she doesn’t use in the room but I’ve seen. This set is $3900 and it’s not the quality of Tyme’s. That will give you an idea on how much it cost - and it is a custom hand painted set. That she hates now.
I’m amazed she published the pictures. Very unlike her.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 9:39 pm
Jermaine D. Says:
Your appeal went skyrocketed to sexy. I had the image of you having an Oprah like house. Everything perfectly in place. A guy can chill and be himself with you. I started working on the second bedroom after being assured it was easy. Wasn’t as easy as I thought. I’ll get around to it one day.
My brother spends about the same amount each week but everything is included. Meals, snacks, drinks, food for guests. It’s not bad.
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 10:25 pm
Foreman Says:
What do you want for your birthday Tyme? Do you have a wishlist available?
Posted on June 4th, 2008 at 11:18 pm
Clifton Says:
I read the other blog. I admit it Tyme. I’m the rope. It’s me. I’ll give myself to you on Friday. I hate myself for making you wait.
Sorry you had to let Otie go. I could have dealt with that since I’m the rope. When I drove by the other day I thought your yard looked extra good. Recommending the new people?
R needs to get her shit together. She’s going to have to weed wack that shit. She cuts the front and not the back.
Tyme is very laid back. Her house is comfortable. Take your shoes off and relax. She doesn’t like the magazine look that Preston likes. She’s friends with a bunch of guys with bachelor pads and Yolanda is junky.
Friday.
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 1:18 am
Emo Says:
Clifton if you’re the rope and you’re waiting until Friday to tell her how you feel you’re an idiot man. No offense.
Tyme, Cupcake, Love, you were painting backwards! You’re painting from the floor up instead of the ceiling down. I almost pissed my pants laughing.
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 1:39 am
Chandra D. Says:
Yup, the ceiling is the first thing painted, then the walls top down.
http://www.wikihow.com/Paint-a-Room
That’s funny. I’m going to bed with a smile. I’m not the only female that messes up home projects. You made my night Tyme. I can paint a room but I can’t do SWOTs. :=)
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 2:07 am
Felix Says:
You can start from the top down when a room is empty but her room still has furniture in it. I’m guessing that she had no interest in painting the ceiling and was only interested in the walls. Then it doesn’t make a difference. I’ve done it successfully both ways. If she was having sex in the room I bet it would be painted. :-!
On that car is that a number on the side?
Your neighbor’s yard looks like a forest. Every block has one, unfortunately yours is next door to you. How ironic is it that you fired your lawn person because he wasn’t doing the yard properly and her yard looks like that? Any reason why she cuts the front and not the back?
Preston liking magazine designs goes nicely with him being a home builder. The rich like that type of thing. Not my thing, I prefer comfortable over “it screams I have money”.
Clifton - I can’t tell if you’re joking or serious.
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 8:16 am
Kitty Says:
Holy crap Tyme! Your neighbor has no pride. That’s really bad. Your computer is cool! I like the headboard. I’d like to get a new one. I can’t prop up in bed. Yours seems like you can prop up and read a book or watch TV. Like the others, I’m laughing about your wall. As much as you talked about it, I couldn’t imagine it. Looking at it, you seem more down to earth for a reason I can’t explain.
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 11:24 am
Marlene Says:
My husand never finishes the household tasks he starts. I don’t want him to start anymore. All of his ideas are unfinished.
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 5:14 pm
Tyme White Says:
See, I SAID you guys were going to tease me about my paint job lol. Actually, by the time I got to that side of the room I said fuck it. Mentally I clocked out of it. I’m not investing any more into this house until after I’m settled unless it’s absolutely necessary (like when the water heater needed to be replaced). It’s hard to describe but physically I’m here but mentally I’m not.
Yes, that is a 1 on the side of the car. OMFG that car is the horrid. Customized cars are kind of popular here but the muffler on that thing is jacked. It’s not tuned(?) right. It doesn’t sound like a race car, it sounds like a car with a whole in the muffler.
Clifton: o_O
Nope, no wish list up. Considering last year I was told I was terminally ill I’m just chilling this year - grateful to be alive and healthy.
Yes, the bedroom furniture is beige-ish and painted gold (not real - don’t even start) around the curves and curly doo-hickies. I look at that now and wonder WTF I was thinking. Now, I think black/white/silver would be cool. I don’t know. None of this is going with me so whatever makes me go OOOHHHH!!! in the store gets in the new spot.
My neighbor doesn’t do anything that makes any sense. I’ve known her almost all my life and she’s always been twisted. One of those people that has no ambition in life.
I told ya’ll I was awesome. Damn, you’re just not seeing that? Get wit da program!!!! *smile
Posted on June 5th, 2008 at 7:09 pm
Felix Says:
Happy Birthday Tyme! I hope you have a great day, a great weekend! =)
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 6:15 am
Fendi Says:
Happy b-day Tyme!
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 6:53 am
Curious George Says:
Happy birthday Tyme. Bring on the peace!
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 9:54 am
Aaron Says:
Have a wonderful day today Tyme. Much love.
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 10:28 am
Cool Guy Says:
Happy birthday! (insert big kiss here)
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 11:20 am
Tyme White Says:
Thank you so much. This week hasn’t been the best. You guys have a radar on how to make me smile at the right time.
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 11:27 am
Marquee Says:
Happy birthday Tyme. Have lots of fun today. It’s so hot and the air is dragging at work.
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
Charmyn Says:
Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday dear Tyyyyyyymmmmmeeeee! Happy Birthday to you!
Posted on June 6th, 2008 at 1:21 pm
Marvin Says:
Tyme I’ve been looking all over for you! I’m the rope, I know I am. I read your other blog. On april 23, I was the one thinking about you! I even wrote you a poem. Don’t lose hope Tyme, I’m here. I do stupid things but I promise I won’t hurt you. You won’t be understimulated for long. The email address I’m leaving directs to my cell phone. I have to go to work in the morning but I’ll try to find you again tomorrow night. I’m your rope, I’m here.
Posted on June 7th, 2008 at 12:06 am
Snoopy Says:
Only on Tyme’s site. Only on Tyme’s site.
Happy belated birthday! I wasn’t online yesterday. Did you have a good day?
Posted on June 7th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
Chris Says:
Checked out both of your sites. I wish I was able to penetrate the people around you to spend more time with you. By the time I caught up with you again you were saying goodbye. Have you considered doing video? Is that something your audience would be interested in seeing?
In the short time I was around you I saw an entertaining video. The man sang “Last Kiss” to you because you were really enjoying that song. Video starts off with him singing parts of the song. Moves to your response rap. I don’t remember all of it but you said something like the guy is singing about a last kiss, he didn’t even get a first kiss, he’s deluding himself if he thought he could handle this…something like that. It was perfect, transition to you dancing. Transition to you saying goodbye, two finger gesture - slow the speed for the effect of you throwing you arm up, smiling, and slowing down more as you turn your back and walk away. Fade.
That’s from what I saw and something more entertaining could have happened. What I described would make a good video. Not many men sing to a woman and she makes it an interactive experience by rapping back. Like the interactive games.
Have you given it any thought? Obviously not as “hot” as your Deliciously Naughty video idea.
Posted on June 8th, 2008 at 7:21 pm
Dennis V. Says:
It’s been said before her people would love video. I had to see what you were talking about with the Deliciously Naughty video. I laughed out loud for awhile on that one. I belatedly realized she was serious and laughed again. The cougar video would be hot if done the way she described. Yours isn’t bad either - thanks for the effects because it made it easier to visualize.
Posted on June 8th, 2008 at 11:57 pm
Mindy Says:
Tyme: do you have a problem with jealousy? Reading the comments I could see where someone could be jealous of your achievements, popularity, etc.
I received a promotion. Now I make significantly more than my friends. When they received promotions and I didn’t I wasn’t jealous of them. I am starting to feel uncomfortable. I feel guilty being around them, I don’t want to share what is going on in my life and their smart remarks that are passed off as jokes can be painful.
If you had to deal with something similar how did you overcome?
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 1:23 am
Preston Says:
Mindy, yes she does unfortunately. Those types of people aren’t conducive to have around because they literally cannot be trusted. Money is the basis of their decisions. They take work because of it, lose friends over it, make horrible decisions due to it. I can stop them a mile away but there are always signs.
And God, never go into any time of financial relationship with a person like that. It can only end one way - failure. Tyme has had men she was involved with jealous of what she’s accomplished which is puzzling. Being with her it’s his too. Inevitably the guy will let a friend get in the way, a friend jealous of the life he sees his friend having once he gets with Tyme. Relationship ends up fucked up. Or Tyme will meet someone new, try to be friends but she’ll sense the jealously and she’s messed up. I never understood why men bring their friends into their relationships. Women I can see doing it, they are women. Men are supposed to be better than that. Talking about Tyme behind her back without talking to her? One of the Top 10 ways to kill her interest.
I can’t remember where 50 Cent’s video is otherwise I’d link it. He talked on this very topic since he goes through it a lot.
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 2:04 am
Frank M. Says:
“And God, never go into any time of financial relationship with a person like that. It can only end one way - failure. ”
Been there, done that. Started something with my best friend. He couldn’t do anything on his own. Every decision he made was the wrong one, rarely got his parts done on time, had no time management skills, and the worst part was I couldn’t trust him to talk to clients due to the above flaws. I had to sever the business side of things to stay friends. He was mad for awhile but it worked out.
Right after that I met a woman I fell in-love with. She was sympathetic to what I was going through, we liked the same things, we could talk about anything. Unfortunately, I didn’t receive Friend Approval. Her friend didn’t have a man and my girlfriend obviously couldn’t have one either. Her friend used to say negative things about me and looking back I see that was the problem - my girlfriend should not have let her do that. Relationship ended and I didn’t know why until weeks later.
Tyme as tough as it might be to face, end those relationships now before they end themselves.
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 9:30 am
SugarDaddy Says:
Last Kiss is a good song. Videos would be terrific, Tyme knows it. I call it The Best Friend Syndrome. Men across the world suffer from it lol.
How is your domain name search going?
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
Tyme White Says:
@Mindy - Unfortunately I do. It doesn’t matter I work my ass off, put in effort to try not to fuck up, that I fucking earned what I have….the jealousy is still there.
The thing to remember Mindy is that it’s not YOUR problem it’s THEIR problem. Being silent about it or not talking about it doesn’t change it being there when it shouldn’t be. I’m happy for my friends that have things I don’t - I don’t fault them having it and I’m not jealous of them.
Preston is right though - people bringing toxic energy into your life don’t need to be there.
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Tyme White Says:
Sorry Chris I didn’t respond - yes video has crossed my mind but at this moment, I don’t want to share my personal life with the world. Perhaps one day but I have some shit I need to clean up first.
Marvin: o_O
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 10:33 pm
Liam Says:
I’m obviously late, happy belated birthday Tyme.
“Your appeal went skyrocketed to sexy. I had the image of you having an Oprah like house. Everything perfectly in place.”
I admit I had the same impression but you aren’t perfect. I read your comment about you trying to conform to what you thought was expected of you. I understand why you had that need because of people having a wrong impression of you that you felt the need to uphold. How can you be your true self or relax if you have people picking you apart, analyzing and judging what you do? You’re trying to be yourself and we’ve made you like Oprah when you are clearly more down to earth.
If you have that going on in your personal life too then where is your escape? If you have people out for money those need the boot too. Aren’t the people closest to you the ones that are judging you less? Happy for you when you make achievements?
“Perhaps one day but I have some shit I need to clean up first.”
Good luck.
Were you talking about this 50 Cent video? http://www.ustream.tv/channel/thisis50-tv
Posted on June 10th, 2008 at 11:17 pm
Curious George Says:
In parts it is listen because the audio quality dives but he freakishly makes some good points. If I made it big today some of my boys would be happy for me. Some would be jealous. I see the that are jealous being a problem. I’m not going to pass on the opportunity and unless they are willing to work their asses off like I did I’m not going to share it with them. Even if I hit the lottery I’m not obligated to share it. I didn’t think about this before.
Posted on June 11th, 2008 at 9:08 am
Foreman Says:
@Curious George - There’s this girl I was thinking about hollering at. I mentioned it to my boy and he was completely against it. She’s a nice girl, has her priorities straight, and her last boyfriend wishes he didn’t screw things up. If I got together with her my lifestyle would change because her family is loaded. I don’t care about that but my life would upscale, leaving him behind. He wouldn’t admit it but it’s the only thing that makes sense. Jealous of what I don’t have yet is sick.
Posted on June 11th, 2008 at 9:23 am
Tyme White Says:
There is a difference between jealousy and envy…I think I might do an article on that.
Thank you Liam. Yes, that’s the 50 Cent video.
Posted on June 11th, 2008 at 3:45 pm
Preston Says:
Preston is right though - people bringing toxic energy into your life don’t need to be there.
Glad your eyes are finally open. Keep it that way. You’re fortunate that you have some good people in your life. You’re fortunate. Get rid of the trash or at least keep the trash at bay, even if it means keeping someone close to you further away than you’d like.
Posted on June 11th, 2008 at 7:24 pm
Mindy Says:
Preston having good people in your life is a blessing. The problem is the people I considered good people ended up not being so good. My friends making smart remarks made them because the thoughts crossed their minds. The jealousy, envy, whatever you want to call it was there otherwise the remarks would not have been made. The thought wouldn’t have crossed their mind in the first place.
I face a similar situation at work. Because of the promotion I have increased responsibilities. My co-worker has been here 4 yrs and is completely incompetent unless told exactly what to do and hounded to get it done everyday. 4 yrs this behavior has been there. My co-worker is jealous because I received the promotion over her. I earned it by doing my job everyday. I don’t understand why she’s still employed here.
Now that it is clear that I can’t trust people I thought I could, I can’t let my guard down with my friends. I can’t let my guard down at work. Money changes things, it shouldn’t but it does.
Posted on June 12th, 2008 at 7:10 am
Felix Says:
“My friends making smart remarks made them because the thoughts crossed their minds.”
I can’t talk for women but for men it’s just an excuse to be a jerk. Do the same thing back and then say you were just joking…can’t you tell it’s a joke?
Damn, those pants make your ass look like you weigh 200lbs.
I’ll pick up the check, you always whine about being broke it’s the least I can do.
Yeah, he’s cute but so are monkeys. Is that the best you can do? Wait, all your ex’s look like monkeys. Carry on.
Whatever it is girls say lol but I think you get the point.
Posted on June 12th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Deidre Says:
Mindy watch the 50 Cent video linked here and you’ll see what you go through is common and there is only one way to handle it. He talked about giving a friend a car. 50 asked how much the guy could afford as a car payment and 50 would pay everything so all he had to do was pay that monthly amount, giving him the chance to have a car outside of his means. Friend said $600. Months later 50 found out not one note had been paid. 50 asked his accountants what was up and he was told the friend said he was paying 50 directly.
The friend took advantage of 50’s kindness. People focused on money do fucked up things, they are selfish people - those people normally DON’T change until they are humbled, like having a ton of money and losing it. Even though 50 could easily afford to buy his friend a car 50 was generous to make it happen so a car outside of friends means was his - all he had to do was pay the note. Just like 50 has to pay his bills.
Mindy your friend should be happy for you, not envious of you. Watch the video, it’s an eye opener.
Posted on June 12th, 2008 at 1:47 pm
Felix Says:
When your rich you can only have ethically strong people around you. Break that rule and you’ll pay dearly. Sometimes it is hard to accept people for who they really are but remember, a friend doesn’t stab you in the back. A friend will help you before hurt you. You don’t have to nag a friend to do something for you she’ll voluntarily do it. A friend will be happy for your successes and sad during your failures. A friend will be there for you everyday, not when it’s convenient. A friend won’t change because you received a promotion.
I sound very wise don’t I? :=)
Posted on June 12th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
Adam H. Says:
How do you guys handle working with someone that has jealousies, doesn’t like you and due to the tension, you don’t like them either? I’m not going to give up my job because I’m up for another promotion the end of the year. When I look at my co-worker it drains my enthusiasm because it’s a hassle working with him. Any ideas?
Posted on June 12th, 2008 at 2:25 pm
Preston Says:
“How do you guys handle working with someone that has jealousies, doesn’t like you and due to the tension, you don’t like them either?”
Never let your guard down. Complain to HR and work on a campaign to get your boss fired. Your boss allowed hostile feelings to enter the work place. That’s not a leader because your team or department is screwed.
“When your rich you can only have ethically strong people around you. Break that rule and you’ll pay dearly. ”
When you have money (and she’s not rich, she works HARD for what she has. She is a single-parent that gets zero support from their father) the rules of the game change. When you have more than your “friends” you can work your ass to the bone being the “good” friend and in the end, it doesn’t matter. Instead of repairing the damage to a friendship, you’ll find your “friend” turn to someone else and in her case, someone that doesn’t like her and stabs her in the back every chance he gets. Why? Because your friend will relate to the person that is more like them financially and the financial similar for some very fucked up reason overrides everything else.
That’s the joy of having money. It brings a lot of pain, frustration and anger.
She’ll probably kill me for saying this but people think they want money. What they really want is to not have to worry about bills. Money brings a ton of complications, a lot of pain, and unfortunately makes it clear who your friends are or aren’t.
Posted on June 14th, 2008 at 5:10 am
Curious George Says:
The new spam: make the comment as the blog owner.
Posted on June 14th, 2008 at 7:00 am
Curious George Says:
Adam maybe it is a sign that there are better opportunities for your elsewhere. Do you really want to work for a company that allows negativity like that?
Preston that’s messed up but things work out the way they are supposed to. Tyme has a bad habit of sticking around much longer than she should. Look at her ex’s. How many times was she teased that she stuck around too long? I believe whoever you are talking about pushed her away because Tyme historically doesn’t walk away. That’s my two cents.
Tyme my girlfriend is working on a SWOT. She’s struggling. If you have any advice could you send me an email? Thanks.
Posted on June 14th, 2008 at 7:07 am
TheNiceGuy Says:
“How do you guys handle working with someone that has jealousies, doesn’t like you and due to the tension, you don’t like them either?”
Is your co-worker doing anything shady? I had a similar problem with a co-worker that used to bring work from his freelance gigs to work. This is strictly against our policies cause for immediate dismissal. Taking a break to surf the Internet, play a game online or chat with a friend is ok. Making money while on the clock is not. Anyone who knows about it can get reprimanded or fired too. When I found out he was doing it I didn’t say anything, then he became too much of a PIA. Weighing whether I wanted to get in trouble it was him or me. He had to go. After an investigation they terminated his employment. When he brought his side gigs to work he didn’t do his job as well as he would if he spent the time doing what he was supposed to be doing. Tripping on my achievements when he was fucking up didn’t work for me.
Can you do something like that?
Posted on June 14th, 2008 at 8:03 pm
Peggy Dale Says:
Adam jealousy is a personality trait that normally does not go away. Otherwise I would ask if you talked it out with him or suggest trying again to sort it out. Worthless advice. Can you talk to HR or your boss?
TheNiceGuy - working at work is cause for immediate dismissal at my job too. We have a couple of employees that have side businesses but none of them bring work to the office that I know of. That’s shady business practices/business ethics. Explain that one to an accountant. Getting paid to work on your outside work and keeping both sets of money? Very shady.
Posted on June 14th, 2008 at 8:51 pm
Terence Says:
“Tyme has a bad habit of sticking around much longer than she should. Look at her ex’s. How many times was she teased that she stuck around too long? I believe whoever you are talking about pushed her away because Tyme historically doesn’t walk away.”
Looking back at my situation and others after me Tyme gets hurt by a knee-jerk reaction to something. The reaction most of the time is wrong but based on insecurity. I once accused Tyme of cheating because I “heard” something. Instead of talking to her I talked to my boy and by the time I was done talking to him Tyme was condemned. I was hurt at the thought of her cheating and the pain of what I thought happened overrode logic. Tyme doesn’t cheat, she would have broken up with me before cheating on me. She didn’t cheat. That mess up was all on me. My insecurities helped me jump to the wrong conclusion but it wasn’t because I was purposely trying to diss her. It was because I loved her.
I don’t know what happened in the circumstance you are talking about Preston and it seems to not be a romantic situation but maybe it is something similar.
Posted on June 14th, 2008 at 11:49 pm
Peggy Dale Says:
Who hasn’t done that before? Unfounded insecurities destroy any type of relationship. It’s hard on the person who has the insecurities and a burden on the person trying to get along with someone with insecurities.
Posted on June 15th, 2008 at 5:49 am
Rashid Says:
Everyone has knee jerk reactions. I don’t think that is the main problem. Turning to someone else when that reaction happens, talking to anyone else outside of the person you had the knee jerk reaction with is the problem that I think ultimately blows things out of proportion.
My Dad asked me how can I make it to Until Death Do Us Part if I turn to someone else when things get bad? He made me realize when I talk to my friends over whomever I had the fight with they rarely say “Man, you were wrong. Stop talking to me to them him/her”. Instead they agree with me, pump me up, and make the situation worse.
Posted on June 15th, 2008 at 12:25 pm
Kitty Says:
I watched a poker game on TV. Dude lost $840,000 on one poker hand! That’s something to be envious of. The things I could do with $840,000.
Posted on June 15th, 2008 at 8:17 pm