Women Traps - He tunes you out
You have something on your mind and you want to talk about it. While sharing your feelings, thoughts, etc. you realize he’s not paying attention. He’s tuned you out and his focus is elsewhere.
Stop talking.
Your gut instinct will be to get upset and then talk about how rude it is that he tuned out.
Stop talking.
What’s the point? Obviously something is on his mind or worse he has no interest in what you are saying. Unless you are doing something stupid like trying to have this conversation during a sports game you know he has an interest in (yeah, that’s stupid), he should be listening to you. If he isn’t, that is a sign. There is no point in talking to a wall.
Stop talking.
Don’t try to force the issue. If it’s not a serious emergency, just chill and wait for another time. If you bring it up again and he tunes out, he doesn’t have an interest in what you’re saying…or you have the worst timing ever.
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Andre Says:
My ma does it when she knows what I’m going to say. Bugs the hell out of me.
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 7:40 pm
Deidre Says:
Logical but in the moment, I want to slap him. :=)
I know ladies that wait until their man is preoccupied to talk to them just to test them. What’s more important?
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 8:14 pm
Felicia Says:
Idea: instead of tuning out say, “I don’t wanna talk about it” or “you’re pissing me off” or “didn’t we go through this already?” Say something!
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 10:07 pm
Dale Jared Says:
Deidre, that’s foul. It’s sad that a woman is that insecure. Emotionally needy women are a drain.
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 10:14 pm
Deidre Says:
I concur. She is very emotionally needy. I told her she should see someone because she has chased away good men over foolishness.
If the spoke up, they would be making things easy.
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 10:26 pm
Mike Says:
Holy hell, dont you hate it when a woman purposely picks a bad time to talk? Jealous of the TV.
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 11:14 pm
Helene Says:
I don’t purposely find a bad time to talk but what if any time you try to talk is the wrong time?
Posted on February 8th, 2008 at 11:25 pm
Hector Says:
I bookmarked the site because of this Tyme. God, why do women always want all of a man’s time?
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 1:14 am
SilkySmooth Says:
A missing point: a disinterested man can tune out at any time. Over dinner, watching a movie, having sex. I agree that talking right then would only irritate him, causing a fight.
Hector, I think insecure women want reassurance of their importance. If her boyfriend picks her over something he really likes it reassures her.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 1:48 am
Lauren Says:
Tyme how else can find out how much he cares? Besides waiting for a holiday, birthday?
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 4:22 am
Terri Says:
Hector we don’t want all of your time. Just a significant part of it! lmao
Seriously, don’t you think that men are doing something to prompt a woman to act like that?
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 5:36 am
Snoopy Says:
I don’t purposely find a bad time to talk but what if any time you try to talk is the wrong time?
He’s not feeling you. Is he around because he feels like he has to be?
Good read.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 6:46 am
Delany Says:
Your gut instinct will be to get upset and then talk about how rude it is that he tuned out. Stop talking.
That’s gotta be in the bible somewhere
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 7:14 am
J Says:
Holy hell, dont you hate it when a woman purposely picks a bad time to talk? Jealous of the TV.
Yes.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 8:51 am
Native Edition Says:
Helene, your man isn’t into you like he once was. Believe it or not when a man is into he enjoys talking about you and wants to know what you think and feel.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 9:17 am
Tyme White Says:
That’s messed up. Truly messed up.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 4:32 pm
Tyme White Says:
The insecure ones are like that. Men do it to. Glad you enjoy the site.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
Tyme White Says:
Lauren, just look at his actions. When a man truly cares about you he shows you.
Posted on February 9th, 2008 at 4:34 pm
Monarch Says:
Excellent advice but hard to do for some people.
Posted on February 10th, 2008 at 7:31 am
Bruce Says:
I both agree and disagree.  Yes women who are insecure can be a drain, and annoying. But IF you love her you should be willing to invest the time to ensure she feels secure. Notice the big IF there, it is important. Ladies, face it, we will always do things that annoy you. This is just one of them. Get over it. If it is TRULY important to you, get our attention. If you can look ahead six months or a year and say "What was that all about?", it really isn’t that important. again, get over it.Â
Admittedly there are just as many insecure men out there, I am sure you ladies can tell us all about them.
Posted on February 10th, 2008 at 9:04 am
Sonny Says:
Unfortunately I’ve had a few that play games. Holding on to the small stuff is an excuse I think.
Posted on February 10th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
Tyme White Says:
Very true, if the love is there, one should do their best to try to ease the insecurities. Both genders annoy each other. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Posted on February 10th, 2008 at 11:23 pm
Tyme White Says:
I don’t see how you put up with her as long as you did. Took a long time for you to relax when you were doing something fun lol.
Posted on February 10th, 2008 at 11:25 pm