Valentine’s Day
To stop the “whatcha doing for V-Day” questions - I’ll share….I’m playing it neutral. Being single if I go out with one guy over another then it might be misunderstood…on this day. Not trying to go there. So neutral it is. What’s neutral? I’m ignoring the day.
It’s no surprise that I think V-Day is a bullshit holiday. I don’t need a day to remind me to appreciate the people I care about - I do it all the time, all through the year. Even when I’m involved I try to encourage my guy to ignore the holiday but it doesn’t sink in:
Me: I know Valentine’s Day is coming up. I don’t think we should celebrate it.
Him: Excuse me?
Me: I don’t need a commercialized day to remind me how much you care about me.
Him: (Silence - sensing it’s a trick.)
Me: Let’s ignore it….treat it like any other day. We can go out if you want, or we can stay in. Doesn’t matter to me.
Him: When should be exchange gifts?
Me: No gifts - ignoring the holiday.
Him: You don’t want me to get you a gift?
Me: Nope - not getting you one either.
At this point he’s sure it’s a trick. So I try to reassure him.
Me: I’d tell you to go hang out with the guys but they are probably obligated to their girlfriends. I know why don’t you ask X, Y, and Z over - watch a game or something.
Him: (not able to stand it anymore) No way!
Me: Sure why not?
What ends up happening? I always (with one exception) got the gift. Why? Hedging their bets just in case I really wanted a gift so they wouldn’t be in the doghouse.
Who was the exception? Roger - we both agreed it was a bullshit holiday.
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